20 Things Women Should Stop Wearing After 50
A friend texted those words to me and wrote “It made me think of your business.”
Really. Because what follows is so profound:
#1 – #20: The Weight of Other People’s Expectations and Judgments
Like me, you probably did an inner high-five when you read this.
Yet, we are so used to saying yes to others. And feeling guilty when we don’t. And worried to lose the love of others if they don’t approve.
I have a great idea: Let’s break the habit.
Let’s Commit to Ourselves
Let’s commit to trusting ourselves, our knowledge, and our dreams.
Then we can live authentically. With joy.
Let’s learn to care for ourselves first.
Then we can care for others. With joy.
Let’s remove the obligation to do everything for everyone else.
Then we can opt for choice. With joy.
It starts with the recognition that we women are empowered. Empowered to do whatever we choose. And that includes putting our needs ahead of everyone else’s.
That also means that every other person in our lives is also empowered. They are free to make their own choices, too, even if we think we would have made a better choice for them (sound familiar, moms?)
How free would we all be if we ignored other’s expectations and judgments? And released our own expectations and judgments of others?
We Will Use Focused Tools
All it takes are some focused tools to build this empowerment muscle, step by step.
Each of us can reclaim our true identity as an authentic being by making changes in any of these categories:
- Childhood programming
I stand ready to help you, and I have the tools.
Let’s commit, today, to ourselves.
With love and respect for your sovereignty,
Listening to Eva Cassidy’s soulful rendition of True Colors, I remembered my love for this song, sung by any artist.
It often seems like a big leap to connect with your Self, then Soul, let alone Source. There are centuries’ worth of philosophies, religions, and writings devoted to finding the correct path.
I took another gulp of my Malbec and sighed, “Oh, what a crappy day. I soooo needed this wine.”
My friend Jane, sitting across from me in the quiet bistro, nodded and smiled. Then, moving the salt and pepper to one side, she leaned forward.